How to Break Patterns and Change Your Life with Scott Miller
How can we shift our thinking in order to break a pattern? And how can we take positive action to make transformative changes in our lives?
That’s the focus of Scott Miller’s new book, “Master Mentors Vol. 2.” It examines key insights from 30 of the world’s most transformational leadership thinkers – including Seth Godin, Susan Cain, General Stanley McChrystal and more – and provides simple steps to implement the same insights in your own life.
In today’s episode, Scott joins me to talk about the most valuable lessons he’s learned from his own mentor, the concept of transformational insight, the subtle nuances between self-worth, self-esteem and self-confidence, why vulnerability is a key element of leadership, and more.
“I think the power of transformation has the power for you to see yourself differently. It has the power for you to challenge your paradigm, your mindset, your belief system, to say, gosh, I always thought about gratitude in this way, but now I’m gonna think about gratitude in this way. Or I thought about what’s next for me or my business model. They’re personal and professional. I think it’s really intended to help kind of shake you to say you’ve been in this pattern of thinking this line of behavior and just shaking a little bit to say, is that serving you well? Is that serving those around you?” – Scott (06:03)
Top 3 Takeaways
- A mentor can be anyone. “I don’t think you have to know or be in an intimate relationship, professional relationship with your mentor at all,” Scott says. It doesn’t matter that you can’t meet with them for one-on-one guidance; a mentor is anyone who helps you understand how to improve your life, and in the age of podcasts and YouTube, you can get that wisdom in a variety of ways.
- Try to assume positive intent. Everybody makes mistakes, and sometimes even the most well-intended words come out wrong. A person’s words say more about them than they do about you.
- Self-worth is inherent and unchanging. “Self-esteem and your self-confidence ebbs and flows based on your sense of self and the kind of relationships you’re in and the things that you do that you value or don’t value,” Scott says. “But your self-worth cannot be changed and no one else can change it.”
In This Episode
- (01:13) Why you don’t need to meet your mentor to benefit from their wisdom
- (05:21) Scott’s definition of a transformational insight
- (07:14) The practical applications of insights, and using them to transform your life
- (11:30) Bobby Herrera’s life-changing bus ride
- (22:50) Self-worth vs self-esteem vs self-confidence
- (31:51) “Your future truth should be your present.”
- (36:03) BJ Fogg and the power of tiny pattern-breaking habits
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